10. Culture shock and carpeting
In this ebook, "Pasta, pizza and Pinocchio,"
Howard Culbertson answers questions asked about missionary work in Italy.
Originally published for the Nazarene Missions International mission book series by what is now
called The Foundry, this book carried ISBN number 0-8341-0612-4. Some material
has been updated for this ebook edition.
ebook: Pasta, pizza, and Pinocchio: Questions and answers about missionary service in
Italy (part 8)
Missions in Italy
- Why did they send you to Italy? Did you feel called to that country?
- No, we didn't feel that our call was to a specific country. In fact, none of the three couples
now serving in Italy really felt a call to Italy.
Our Global Mission leaders attempt to match up
individual missionaries' gifts and skills with the requests that come in from mission field councils
for additional missionaries. That is, they attempt to match people with the needs. As a result of
that process, the Longs, Lovetts, and the Culbertsons landed in Italy.
- I don't suppose there'd be much of a culture shock going to Italy, would there?
- You are right in thinking that American culture is
related to the Italian one. But that doesn't mean that an American feels immediately at home in
Italy. The language is different. Foods are different. Buildings and cities are different. Cars are
different. The political system is different. Money is different.
Perhaps more importantly the way of thinking and communicating often differs. The
Italian code of behavior is centered around a family-based social web. Rather than being success
oriented, the Italians consider relationships to be the most important thing in life. Add all those
things up. And they do happen to equal what Oberg called culture shock -- at least they did for
us! [ more on culture shock ]
- What are some Italian customs that would be different from those in the U.S.?
- Among good friends of the same sex, there is much
more kissing and hugging. When you greet your friends at church, for example, you kiss them on
both cheeks. Good friends are often seen strolling down the street arm in arm. This must,
however, be rooted in deep personal friendship. The kind of back-slapping, buddy-buddy
behavior put on by some American men immediately upon being introduced to someone would
be regarded by the Italians as effrontery, a shameless disregard of propriety.
Meals are eaten on totally different schedules. The noon
meal will be eaten around 1:30 while the evening meal may be served at 7:30 in northern Italy
and as late as 11 p.m. in Sicily. When dining, you do not put your napkin in your lap. It should be
left folded beside the plate. Until I learned this one, I had waiters bringing me napkins a couple
of times during a meal. They thought they'd forgotten to give me one when it was really lying
over my knee!
Italians are sometimes thought of as being disorderly
because they don't use nice, straight waiting lines as we do. However, what may look like a mob
(or a horrible traffic jam) often has a very definitely understood order about it.
- What do your kids do for schooling?
- We have started Matthew in the Italian public schools. (Rachele hasn't yet started to
- Aren't there American schools available?
- Yes, but some of those "American" schools could teach
U.S. public schools a few things about drugs, immorality, humanism, and materialism. And they
are quite costly as well.
- Won't your kids have to take make-up subjects before they enter American colleges?
- Not necessarily. Thousands of foreign students enter
the U.S. each year to study with no problems. We will, however, probably be tutoring them in
English, American history, and such subjects if we continue their education in Italian public
schools. This will make an easier transition for them into American schools during home
assignment years as well as for entering college.
- How do you decide what to do as a missionary?
- Once a year the complete missionary staff (all six of
us!) gets together. We report on our individual ministries for that year. We evaluate where we are
and what we have or haven't done. We attempt to sort out our priorities for the coming year.
Theoretically, it's a team strategy effort.
Normally, each missionary will be working in areas and on
projects where his or her interests and abilities lie. It doesn't always work out ideally in practice,
but that's the theory.
- What did the Lovetts do?
- Russell and Donna Lovett moved to the Naples area in
the summer of 1978. They worked in evangelism and church planting in that area and had charge
of two already existing, but struggling, churches. Russell also took on the responsibility for
pastoral training on the district in addition to interim responsibilities as mission treasurer and
literature coordinator. He also worked as district NYI president.
- Did you get a lot of American visitors?
- Yes, we did. Particularly the missionaries living in Rome and we in Florence. Both of these
cities are visited by almost every American tour group that comes to Italy. In some of our
summers in Florence, scarcely a week went by woithout us seeing somebody from the U.S. With
nearly 13 million tourists coming each year, tourism is one of Italy's biggest businesses.
- Can you travel easily or are there restrictions on you as a foreigner?
- Italy is a western European nation which does not
attempt to control the movements of people inside its borders. The only difference from the U.S.
is that every hotel or motel does have to send a copy of its nightly register to the police.
Therefore, when you register for a night's lodging you have to present identification such as a
With our churches scattered all over the country, our
responsibilities do make us travel quite a bit. We also get out of Italy at least once each year to
church functions in northern Europe.
- Have you seen much of Rome?
- We spent eight months in Rome in language study.
While there we became the official Nazarene tour guide, relieving the Fullers of that
responsibility. So we have seen Rome and seen it well. But we still enjoy going there. Where else
-- asks a Rand McNally guidebook -- can one stand on a perfect 17th-century square, in front of
an Egyptian obelisk plundered in the 1st century, while looking at the world's most famous church which was designed by Michaelangelo in the
16th century and built on the site of a 4th-century basilica?
- Were you located very far from the other missionary families?
- Florence is three to four hours north of Rome where
another Nazarene missionary family lived. Naples, where another family lived for a while, is
another three hours on south of Rome. The Long also lived in Sicily for a while and that was 14
hours from Florence. So we were quite geographically separated from each other. [ more on living in Rome ]
- Do you missionaries get to see each other very often? Do you get together on a
- We men see each other more often than our families do. We're together maybe once a
month, meeting with district boards and carrying out other responsibilities. Our families are all
together perhaps three times a year at things like district assembly, military personnel retreat, and
annual council meeting.
- Do all missionaries get paid the same?
- Theoretically, they do. Our salary and benefits are set
by the Nazarene General Board. That's the same for all missionaries. Then a cost-of-living
allowance is added which varies from country to country and supposedly puts every missionary
on the same standard of living. Career missionaries receive an additional annual increment after
their fifth year of service. Single missionaries get 70 percent of the salary set for couples.
- What was your home like in Italy? Did it have carpet and other luxuries?
- In our first term, we lived in the second story of the
Florence church building. Built in 1952, it's a three-bedroom apartment with high ceilings and
marble floors. (Wood is too expensive since it all has to be imported. Marble, on the other hand,
is quarried out of the nearest mountain!)
On one side of the church is a very small grassy area where
the children can play. There is an outside concrete stairway leading down to that small yard.
The Fullers and Longs lived in a similar arrangement in
Rome while the Lovetts rented an apartment in Naples when they lived there.
- If a young person feels called to missionary service, what should he do?
- The first thing would be to write to the World Mission office at the Global Ministry Center
in Lenexa, Kansas. Tell them about your call and express an interest in knowing
where to go from here. They will then suggest possible ways of preparing, kinds of experience to
get, as well as some practical next steps to take. [ more on knowing
God's will ]
- In what other European countries are there Nazarene missionaries?
- We have Nazarene work in most European countries,
including several where we do not have expatriate (or foreign) missionaries. Rather than listing
all of those where there are Nazarene churches, it may be easier to name the European countries
which we have not yet entered. We are not yet in Austria, Belgium, Sweden, or little
Liechtenstein or tiny little Monaco. . . . [ continue reading
| Page: ←Prev | Introduction |
1. The Leaning Tower, the Lira, and
Women's Lib |
2. Italian, Illegal Drugs, and Insulated
3. Fiats, Florence, and Furloughs
4. The Military, Missionaries, and the
5. Marco Polo and Ronald McDonald
6. The Cerratos, Alabaster Churches, and
Work Crews |
7. Communism, Catholicism, and the
8. Sincerity, Self-support, and Sowing
the Seed |
9. Books, Broadcasting, and the Bible
10. Culture Shock and Carpeting |
11. A Word from My Heart
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A word from my heart
|Thanks to all of you who made our
missionary ministry in Italy possible. . . . [ more ]|
-- Howard Culbertson,
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