Love Link, in Oklahoma City, is a Nazarene Compassionate Ministry Center. Among its financial supporters is Nazarene Missions International of the Northwest Oklahoma district of the Church of the Nazarene.
Helping those in need: Discretionary compassion
""Jesus had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd" -- Matthew 9:36
Can someone help the poor too much?
Can trying to help wind up hurting?
by Wayne Stark
In this article, former Love Link director and long-time urban pastor Wayne Stark shares his philosophy of urban or inner city ministry.
If compassionate ministry is to reach its greatest potential, it must be done holistically. If a particular ministry is going it alone, it needs to develop a range of ministries that are holistic in nature. This, of course, can be very difficult for smaller ministry programs. If there are several ministry programs in a particular locale, they should learn to work together, each one emphasizing different aspects of ministry from the others and yet all complementing each other, so that the net result of their working together is a holistic ministry. Let me briefly outline my view of compassionate ministry. (Parenthetically, I often wonder if the name should more properly be ministries of compassion rather than compassionate ministry.)
In 1996 Marvin Olasky wrote a book which he titled Renewing American Compassion. Although writing with a political rather than a religious agenda, Olasky draws a striking contrast between the compassionate ministries of early America and those of today.
During America's earlier years, Christian compassionate ministry was quite discretionary. The focus was on helping those who could not help themselves. Able bodied men were banned from the program -- even the drunkards. I believe they went to an extreme in their selectiveness and did not have a compassionate understanding of the terrible helplessness from which addicts often suffer. Still, it's clear that exercising discretion in compassionate ministry does have a historical basis as well as Biblical foundations.
Housing for the homeless seems to be on the minds of many. More than once I've heard someone say, "I wish I had a building large enough to house all of the homeless".
I cringe when I hear such comments. I've spent a lot of time working in chemical dependency programs. In those programs, I often found myself saying to parents: "If your addict son is 25 years old, living at home, eating your food, expecting you to do his laundry and other things, then kick him out." Far too many shelters enable the addicts, hurting rather than helping them.
Handing out food and clothing without discretion may worsen things be allowing addicts to focus most of their attention and resources to their addictive practices. Certainly, there are many deserving people who really need help. The question is: How much do we follow the principle that we first feed the person who is hungry so that he/she will listen to our message of hope for salvation and a new life in Christ?
Many would emphasize job training and assisting the needy in finding employment. The truth is that many of the needy we work with already have job skills. Some are very highly trained. They can get one job after another, but they cannot stay employed because of their addictions.
Working with children and teens is challenging and exciting. But it is very important to work with the whole family if the children are to be permanently helped. The other day, my wife and I were thinking back over our years in ministry. We noted that the inner city children we had seen grow up and became stable Christians with Christian families were those who had been, in one way or another, adopted into Christian families. We recalled two situations in which boys from the inner city were accepted into Christian families and married daughters from those families.
The discretionary compassionate ministry of earlier years pretty well faded away as the government implemented its own welfare system. Unfortunately, that governmental system made some serious mistakes. In recent years, it has moved to becoming more discretionary.
Within the last few years there has been a renewal of interest within the church concerning compassionate ministry. This interest continues to grow. In some ways, however, we are still in the infancy stage of learning how to do discretionary compassionate ministry.
Love Link | 500 S. Western | Oklahoma City, OK 73109-1032 | (405) 239-6219"I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me." -- Matthew 25:40
Mailing address: PO Box 2023, Oklahoma City, OK 73101
It does pay!
David had a serious problem with alcohol. He was drinking himself to death. Though he wouldn't come to church services, he would frequently show up for a meal (Sometimes we become impatient with those who come only for the food). I kept encouraging him to try our services.
One day David asked if he could get into our recovery program. We took him in, and he has done great. He has been faithful to attend church and help with work around the house and with the Love Link ministry, a Nazarene Compassionate Ministry center. He has become committed to the reading of God's Word. David is a very different person from what he was a few months ago. It started with a meal. Yes, the meals do pay off.
"How can I help the poor?"
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